Advice for dating your exhusband
You wrote about your confusion: are we doing the right thing by divorcing? But we’re so toxic together and sometimes love just ain’t enough. You learn he’s seeing other women, you see other men.
So you float away from each other and appear to make drastic improvements to yourselves and your respective lives, which confirms to you that divorce was the right call.
But crying or making a scene before your ex-husband will simply not help.
When it all gets too confusing, you remind yourself what those last couple years of marriage were like. Adrift on a sea of self-hatred which you direct at each other, self-medicating with food and alcohol and excellent TV series binges. Like riding in a fast-moving car without a seat belt. He says things to you no man has ever said, he romances you like nobody ever has. You’re supposed to keep writing about all of it but you don’t know what to write because it’s all so confusing.
Or maybe you just feel that way because divorce is the scariest thing you’ve ever experienced in your life. So you keep on keeping on because it wouldn’t be fair to suck your ex back into the drama you’ve spent the past year working so hard to overcome. As I write this tonight at my house he’s 25 miles down the road at his place with the kids because it’s his night. Your Facebook name, profile photo and other personal information you make public on Facebook (e.g., school, work, current city, age) will appear with your comment.