California law minors dating adults
As the emotional fight unfolds in Sacramento, there’s no agreement even about a basic piece of information — how many minors get married each year in California.People who want to limit such marriages say the total is in the thousands, while those who oppose the bill say that’s vastly inflated.Six months later, at 16, she was pregnant and legally married in a civil ceremony in Reno.“A person who marries a 15-year-old, there’s obviously something wrong,” said Tasneem, now 36.She would ultimately defy her husband and return to school, and later file for divorce.“Once you leave your childhood, there’s no going back to it,” said Tasneem, now a business student at Golden Gate University in San Francisco.Nicole, who requested her last name be withheld for safety reasons, said she had been dating the man but was still in high school — and wasn’t ready to settle down.
Among those disappointed by the result of the compromise is Sara Tasneem of El Sobrante, who said the amended bill won’t help children and will only make elected officials feel like they did something.A Bay Area legislator was shocked when he learned from a young constituent that while Californians cannot legally consent to sex until they are 18, they can — with the permission of a parent and a judge’s order — get married at any age, even if their spouse is many years older.But Hill’s resulting proposal to bar juveniles from getting hitched has been watered down after it prompted strong objections from civil rights groups, including the American Civil Liberties Union.“Putting that label of husband and wife makes something disgusting and not OK seem normal and OK.” As a teenager, Tasneem dreamed of becoming a lawyer.
Instead, she became a mother, with two children by age 19.
Tasneem was 15 when her father, who belonged to a cult in Southern California, introduced her to a man 13 years her senior.