Narcissistic behavior dating
Many people, both men and women, experience a range of emotions when they are going through a divorce.They act out in ways that aren't aligned with their innate personalities. And the act of name-calling may be a way to relieve these feelings.They will always blame you-even for their abuse toward you. If only you weren’t so difficult…you made her so upset she couldn’t think straight…your talking pushed him over the edge…and so on.The child of a narcissist gets cautioned against “making” his parent abuse him.He enjoys pushing your buttons just for the fun of watching you squirm.If you're dealing with a narcissist, don't feed his ego and avoid falling prey to his traps.When you live like this every day-where everything bad is your fault- you learn to live in a state of heightened anxiety (“free floating anxiety) where you are always waiting and expecting the other shoe to drop.
The narcissist’s rage erupts frequently and violently like a volcano, and those closest to him are the ones that catch his wrath.
In order to avoid shame, which the narcissist avoids at any cost, he externalizes blame for all negative events.
As he thinks that someone must be guilty, he almost always attributes the blame to others.
Narcissists are notorious for placing blame on other people and not on themselves.
Even when they clearly and definitely did something wrong, they cannot- and will not- accept responsibility. Narcissists either ignore their contribution to the situation or insist that the other person (spouse, child, co-worker or etc.) made them do it.
So is your ex really a sociopath or a narcissist, or is he just acting out?